Stepping into personal power

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Have you ever had a moment of personal power? A moment of infinite freedom? A decisive moment in your personal history where you were 100% aware of your personal power and the freedom to choose?

They say that someone with nothing left to lose has nothing to fear.  I believe the reason for this is because it somewhat liberating, while not necessarily ideal, when you have lost everything you love, you have the ultimate freedom of choice. Because you are no longer weighed down by commitment to others or commitment to responsibilities or commitment in general. You have removed all the balls and completely cut all the chains. It is the reason why people who have finally hit rock bottom can not only come back, but often come back stronger than ever. When you have lost everything, you no longer have any reason to stop trusting your intuition and listening to your own inner guidance and GPS. Because when you hit rock bottom, you start realizing the roll you have had to play in your own failures.  Because when all you have loved is lost… you truly have to choose to live. Once you make the choice to live and claw your way through all the muck and mud of self destruction you can see the places where you took wrong turns.

Losing everything is not the only way to step into our own power. Unfortunately, we humans tend to like taking the hard way more often than the scenic route.

Every day we have the ability to wake up and choose a different reality. It all starts when we claim our personal power and recognize the power of personal choice and take different actions than the ones that keep us tied to ideals that are not ours. Even when we choose to compromise our ideals because we love someone, once we recognize this has been our choice, we no longer feel a victim of circumstance or anything else. When we own our choices we become more powerful because we establish healthy boundaries when we know what we stand for and value most.

Of course once we step into our power, there are always circumstances outside of our control because there are Billions of souls co-creating our reality and not everyone’s ideal fits together. This of course means that we still have a responsibility to choose our response to that reality. I hate traffic jams, it gets up my blood pressure and stresses me out. When I allow myself to become inpatient with the traffic, it does not change the fact that their is traffic, it just makes the traffic unbearable and my mood sour. This is a choice!

From here, it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to deduce the impact our choices have on our health and in our bodies. Besides the food we choose to eat, choosing to stress out in traffic for an hour a day certainly is not doing much to help the blood pressure. Minute by minute we make little choices that impact our reality and impact our health. When we step into our personal power, we start to recognize the impact each and every choice we make every single minute of every single day creates this life and at any moment we can choose to create a different reality by making a different choices.

I struggle with this daily. I know I create my own reality intellectually, but sometimes, my ego has a difficult time making the integration with reality. Its super easy to get in my car, excited to get somewhere (Usually trying to get home from the daily grind) and then get irritated when I see traffic is going to delay me. It’s easy to lose sight of my part in creating my own reality when the guy in the next lane decides to jump in front of me and then hit his breaks. It’s really easy to lose sight in those instant moments of impact where the rubber meets the road. But, we must slug on and keep at it, like a meditation practice, when we realize the mind has wandered, we gently go back to the breath. Daily, we must gently remind ourselves, when we realize we have allowed emotions to take control (the ego), we must be gently with ourselves when we do this, because forgetting is part of the human condition. When we catch ourselves drifting down the river of emotion, simply remember that at anytime we can choose not to. We always have a choice. The choice will not always be easy but it is always there.

The more we practice stepping into our power and claiming the power of our own choices, we get better at it, it becomes more natural. Our mind wanders less and the tides of emotion begin to shore themselves up.  We begin feeling empowered by our choices and we begin to claim that power more often. We no longer say yes when we mean no. We no longer make commitments our hearts are not really congruent with. We begin valuing our time and our personal freedom. We express our boundaries and communicate our needs clearly and our relationships transform. We choose when to compromise and when we refuse the incongruence.  Once we have claimed our power, life starts getting easier because we understand the power of choice.

This also means we have to start looking at what we hold dearly and where we have those balls and chains. I had a very liberating moment when I learned for myself to consider the source of my critics. It is a basic human need to want to fit in, but it is important to recognize where it is we are trying to fit before we make commitments to sacrifice our freedom to choose.

I have shared before that I have had some daddy issues over the years, constantly seeking approval from men who are incapable of giving it to me for one reason or another, repeating the patterns of my childhood, my father’s emotional unavailability and my need for his approval.  Cutting that ball and chain gave me wings to fly! One day, I realized that my father is a miserable, unhappy man who is chronically negative, critical and dryly sarcastic. He is that way with everyone. While I had always made it my personal mission to seek his approval and pride, he  is incapable of giving it to anyone, it has nothing to do with me, it wasn’t personal. It was his problem with his life, not mine. When he chose to criticize my choices, I started choosing to not care. Because if choosing the life he would chose for me would result in my having his disposition, why on earth would I choose his path? Do not get me wrong, this does not mean we should criticize anyone else’s path, but I do think we should consider carefully whose criticism we are willing to take to heart. Whose life are we trying to live? Who are we trying to emulate? Once we step into our personal power, it becomes more evident that the fewer opinions we allow to matter, the more liberated we are.

Stepping into our power is not an overnight thing, it is a process that has to be worked at and perfected and massaged and molded. We learn as we grow and we share what we know with others so we can all help light the way. Because enlightenment itself is so brief and hard to explain in human words, we do every thing we can to find ways to describe what we have seen and to live up to our part in the circle of life.

I am by no means an expert because as I have shared, it is a daily struggle to remember. Emotions are like waves, they have a tendency to knock us out of our natural rhythm. We have to learn to swim with the tides, sometimes that means diving right into the thick of it and holding on to see what comes out the other side.  Each and every day I have to remind myself I have choices, but it gets easier with practice and then I begin discovering even more layers of places in which I actually have more control than I have ever realized. Its an amazingly fabulous journey! What does your struggle look like? How do you struggle to remember you have choices?

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Fear and Conflict part 2

 

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This post is part of a series entitled: Reflections from a Course of Miracles. This is part two of Chapter 2, Part VI. Fear and Conflict.

Fear can also come from doing something our minds have not completely set mind to do. When we enter into these agreements, if you will, we are doing something we are not totally committed to doing. This can cause rage, resentment and projection. In order to respond to this fear, we must ask ourselves what exactly it is we are afraid of and why we are fearful. We must be honest with ourselves about what we want and what we fear. Having a clear intention eliminates fear.

“The Strength to do, comes from your undecided decision”

Only the mind can create fear. When wanting and doing are incongruent, fear is inevitable, so it is important to know our intentions first. As the quote above states, the only place that fear can exist is in our thoughts of the future.

First we must understand what fear is, then we must also know that fear arises from incongruence or a lack of understanding that spirit is perfect and has nothing to fear, and we are all nothing more than spirit.  When we accept that we are spirit, we can love spirit completely without fear. Perfect love is the remedy for fear. When we know we are spirit and we know our intentions, and we remember that spirit is perfect. We have no reason to fear, because spirit is eternal. Perfect, unconditional love of ourselves in this case, brings us back to the understanding that we are spirit and perfection and eternal. There is nothing to fear.

“The mind is very powerful, and never loses its creative force. It never sleeps. Every instant it is creating. It is hard to recognize that thought and belief combine into a power surge that can literally move mountains. You prefer to believe that your thoughts cannot exert real influence because you are afraid of them. There are no idle thoughts. All thinking produces form at some level.”

The mind is much more powerful than most of us believe or realize. We can truly manifest the life we want through our intention.

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Fear and Conflict part one

This post is part of a series entitled: Reflections from A Course in Miracles. 

 

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Fear is manifested in the body and the mind. As we learned in previous posts, the body is nothing more than a playground, a school yard for the spirit to experience presence here on earth as a human being.

“The presence of fear shows that you have raised body thoughts to the level of the mind.”

Once we have reached a state of fear, we are less able to access our true source of power, the intuition. It is necessary to remove the fear in order to access our intuition, which is the only true connection we have with “source.”

“You would not excuse insane behavior on your part by saying you could not help it. Why should you condone insane thinking? There is a confusion here that you would do well to look at clearly. You may believe that you are responsible for what you do, but not for what you think.  The truth is that you are responsible for what you think, because it is only at this level that you can access choice.  What you do comes from what you think.”

Whenever you are fearful, it is because you have allowed the mind to take control, and stopped listening to your intuition, which is your true source of knowing.

“You must change your mind, not your behavior, and this is a matter of willingness.”
Without changing our mind, we cannot change our actions. Everything starts with intention, this is a product of the mind.

“The correction of fear is your responsibility” Spirit is perfect and is not afraid of anything. Therefore, if you are fearful, you are once again forgetting that you are spirit and spirit is perfection (aka the separation.) If you are asking to be released from fear, you are taking away your own responsibility to recognize that fact that once again, you are spirit and spirit is already perfect and has nothing to fear, everything is already as it should be.

Incongruence, as defined by Carl Rogers’ humanistic approach to psychology, and it reflects a difference between a person’s self-image and actual experience.  Fear then, is always a sign of incongruence. It is the conflict that arises when our values and our experience do not match.

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Book Review: Burning Woman

 

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In her own words, Lucy Pearce describes Burning Woman: “This book is for all women who burn with passion. Have been burned by shame. And in other places, at other times would have been burned alive for what they do and who they are. It is written for every woman who has struggled with expressing herself. Every woman filled with burning questions, who longed to give voice to the ideas within her, but was too scared by what might happen if she did. It is dedicated to every woman who is in the process of stepping into her power. And every single woman who has burned when she did.”

This book is about stepping into your personal power. “Something far bigger than just their desire to paint or write or start a blog or a business or protest. There is a collective burning igniting within women. A deep need to tell our stories and be heard. A longing to heal past hurts and move beyond them, into something big and bold and fresh and new. Something is changing, we can sense it. And yet when we have this yearning, when we hear this calling there is still the paralyzing fear.”

Lucy Pearce finds a way to take feminism and make it more approachable for those of us who never had a desire to burn our bras. This is a wonderful empowering book for all women, of all ages. If you are not burning before you read this book, as woman, you most likely will find yourself burning as you read it, I certainly did! If you want to ignite your passion and burn with an unquenchable fire, if you are searching for something and not quite sure what it is, if you are hungry for something, this book is for you!

Lucy writes with knowledge, authority and approachability. As I leaf through my own copy of this book, most of it is highlighted or dog eared or underlined. It is an incredible spiritual journey which will not disappoint!

“Now the phoenix of humanity can rise out of the flames of the old culture. Now is the time to return to the Feminine into her full power, to work in partnership with a new, mature masculine. Now is the time to give birth to a new world. Burning woman, hear the call!”

This book is for women who burn with passion. The book will have you accessing your personal power, courage and ready to engage the world in new ways!

“I invite you to stay aware of your body and emotions, note the impact that the words and ideas have on you internally. Feel where they inflame you, with passion or anger. See where they hit blockages or seed sparks. Because they will. These are burning words. Written for you, Burning Woman

This book came at such an amazing time for me, while trying to access my personal power and my own femininity.  I do hope you read Burning Woman and I do hope that you burn, that you find your own personal power and that you never stop burning with feminine energy and passion. This book was an incredible journey for me!

 

 

 

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The Function of the Miracle Worker

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This post is part of a series entitled: Reflections from a Course in Miracles.   We are currently in Chapter 2: The Separation and the Atonement Section V The Function of the Miracle Worker.

In my last post, we talked a little about the purpose of miracles: To remove fear. We also learned that the mind is the only thing that can create and can create

“It is essential to remember that only the mind can create.”  So, it is given that only the mind can create error (in thought) and the mistake must be corrected where it happens (in the mind).  We are reminded that spirit is perfect and therefore does not require any correction and the body is non existent, as anything more than a container for the spirit and as a learning device for the mind.

“It is obvious, then, that inducing the mind to give up its miscreations is the only application of creative ability that is truly meaningful”

In paragraph 2, we are reminded that we cannot approach the miracle with fear. Fear, which is tied to the ego will only lead you to miscreate. The text advises us to continue using physical medicine to heal the body until we are not fearful, because fear puts the creating principles of the miracle at risk. Self-doubt in your ability to heal with your mind, will also put the miracle at risk. The text tells us to be ready or not attempt the miracle. Self deprecation and Exaltation are both false and therefor will impact the ability to perform the miracle. My interpretation of this is that we must be humble and confident in our ability to perform the miracle.

“The healer who relies on his own readiness is endangering his understanding. If your miracle working inclination s are not functioning properly, it is always because fear has intruded on your right-mindedness and has turned it upside down. You are perfectly safe as long as you are completely unconcerned about your readiness, but maintain a consistent trust in mine”

The sole purpose of the miracle worker is the atonement (see previous post for a definition of atonement in this context) for himself. Once your mind, heart (spirit) and body are congruent, you begin to heal yourself and those around you. There is emphasis on recognizing the power of the mind to create both positive and negative.

When you begin to recognize the power of your mind, it is important to attribute only creativity to it. While the mind has the ability to deconstruct, it is important to focus on the more positive, creative aspects. In focusing on creating the miracle and creating what you want in your life, you will find the destructive habits of the mind lose their power. (This is completely a power of positive thinking).

Remember again, that the body is nothing more than a learning playground for the spirit.

“Corrective learning always begins with the awakening of spirit, and the turning away from the belief in physical sight”

The eyes are wired directly to the mind. Many of us have difficulty believing in something we have not physically seen with our own eyes.  But, to understand the miracle, and the atonement, it is important to have faith and understanding that some things exist, which we cannot physically see.

“What the physical eye sees in bot corrective, nor can error be corrected by any device that can be seen physically.  As long as you” (only) “believe in what your physical sight tells you, your attempts at correction will be misdirected.

Finally, this section addresses charity. Charity in this sense is considered, “a way of perceiving perfection in others, even if you cannot perceive in yourself. When you offer this miracle to another, you are healing both of you, this healing transcends time.